Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

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Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity:  A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement As the founder and director of GayTherapyLA, a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in therapy for gay men and counseling for gay male couples (26 years), a theme that I see among clients from time to time includes the gay male client’s … Read moreGay Men and Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help

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Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression.  I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read moreGay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help

Gay Men and Friendships: How to Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship

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Gay Men and Friendships:  How to Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship As a gay male therapist with over 26 years of experience, I’ve seen many clients have to deal with how interpersonal relationships in their lives change over time.  Much of the time, I help guys with dating and romantic/domestic relationship issues, but lately some … Read moreGay Men and Friendships: How to Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship

Gay Men and Ghosting: Why We Do It, How We Cope

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Gay Men and Ghosting:  Why We Do It, How We Cope In the blogosphere, there have already been some articles on gay men and ghosting, but none of them go into any real depth from a mental health point of view, and in my 26 years as a psychotherapist who specializes in therapy for gay … Read moreGay Men and Ghosting: Why We Do It, How We Cope

GayTherapyLA Associate Clinicians: Interview with Matthew Allen, MA, APCC

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GayTherapyLA had the pleasure in April (2018) to hire Matthew Allen, MA, APCC, who is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, working as a new Associate Clinician on weekday mornings and weekends at the GayTherapyLA offices on San Vicente near Sixth in LA/Beverly Hills.  I caught up with Matthew to ask him about himself, and the … Read moreGayTherapyLA Associate Clinicians: Interview with Matthew Allen, MA, APCC

Hard Times: Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction – Cognitive Causes and Cures

Hard Times:  Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction – Causes and Cures Background:  Erectile Dysfunction in Gay Men I’ve been a therapist who specializes in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, and one of the most frequent topics discussed in my office is about sexual anxieties, in particular erectile dysfunction (ED), sometimes in the … Read moreHard Times: Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction – Cognitive Causes and Cures

“Toxic Busy”: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

Recently in my psychotherapy and coaching practice that has focused on gay men and gay male couples for over 26 years, a client started a session by talking about his previous week.  “How was this week?” I asked. “Oh, boy.  Lots going on.  Been busy.  Very busy.  Toxic busy!” That phrase struck me. “Toxic busy”.  … Read more“Toxic Busy”: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

Shrink at the Movies: Loving “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective

Shrink at the Movies:  Loving “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective In my work as a licensed psychotherapist and life/business coach specializing in gay men and therapy for gay male couples for over 26 years, I blog frequently on topics on LGBTQ+ mental health in general, and gay men’s therapy in particular, … Read moreShrink at the Movies: Loving “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective

LGBTQ+ Families and How to be Proactive at School

LGBTQ+ Families and How to be Proactive at School A guest blog by David Strah, Associate MFT, Associate Clinician at GayTherapyLA When we consider LGBQ+ families, it’s important to consider how parents can be proactive at school.  I can happily report that my two kids loved school and overall their academic experiences have been positive.  … Read moreLGBTQ+ Families and How to be Proactive at School