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How Gay Men Improve Sexual Functioning: The Mind/Body Connection

How Gay Men Improve Sexual Functioning:  The Mind/Body Connection   Sexual Satisfaction as Personal Right As I’ve learned over 25 years providing gay-affirmative therapy and coaching for gay men and gay male couples all over the world, a robust mental health is made up of certain core components.  A part of good mental health is […]

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Gay Men’s Career Planning: For Love or Money? Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Rewards

Gay Men’s Career Planning:  For Love or Money?  Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Rewards In my psychotherapy and coaching practice with gay men in my office in Los Angeles and all over the world (through webcam), I frequently help guys with career planning.  One of the biggest themes in discussion lately has been about intrinsic, inherent rewards […]

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How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques In Part 1 of this article, I shared some of the traits of resilient people that have been described by Susan Dunn, in her “Top 10 Attributes of Resilient People”, among others.  Resilience is the ability to adapt and grow from adversity, […]

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How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 1: Traits

Whether it’s Trump’s election and his appointment of virulently anti-gay cabinet members (my article on that is here), or just everyday life challenges that would be there regardless, gay men need support to face stressors of various kinds.  Things happen that are barriers, setbacks, and losses, and when they do, we need to mobilize both […]

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A Secular Appreciation of Christmas

A Secular Appreciation of Christmas (for Gay Men and Others) Conflicted About Christmas The holiday season is many things for many people, because as a world culture, it’s the time of year when the peoples of many (but not all) nations unite around symbols, customs, and rituals that reflect observance of Christmas, in areas of […]

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Ten Tips to Reduce Your Election Stress This Weekend: A Guide for Gay Men

There’s a saying that says, “don’t be part of the problem, be part of the solution.” So many of my friends on Facebook, my clients, and just people I talk to, have reported that they have had such a hard week and hard time for a number of weeks now, because they are stressed about […]

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In Defense of Hate: Understanding the Modern American Conservative

[OK, it should go without saying for those who regularly read my blog, but I’m being facetious with the below.  I’m not a Trump supporter, and I’m being “devil’s advocate” here.  Just to clarify…] Usually, I write about LGBT issues (more specifically, about gay men), but because so many are stressed out about this election, […]

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How Therapy Can Help You Age Gracefully: A Guide for Gay Men – Part III: Domestically and Financially

In this third and last of my three-part series on how therapy can help gay men age gracefully, I’d like to share how therapy can help you be at your best domestically and financially.  (In Part I, we covered emotionally and physically, and in Part II , we covered socially and culturally). As a specialist […]

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Interview with Aaron B. Duke, Interior Designer, on Gay Men’s Entrepreneurial Success

Today’s article is an interview with Aaron B. Duke, one of the most prominent interior designers in Los Angeles, whose work has created some of the most beautiful homes in Southern California and elsewhere.  In addition, he is an out-and-proud gay male entrepreneur, with plenty of advice for young gay men (or others) who want […]

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