Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

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Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity:  A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement As the founder and director of GayTherapyLA, a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in therapy for gay men and counseling for gay male couples (26 years), a theme that I see among clients from time to time includes the gay male client’s … Read moreGay Men and Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

Coping with Post-Election Fears in an LGBT Context

Coping with Post-Election Fears in an LGBT Context There are countless blogs being written this week about the election results, and since I write the blog regularly, it seems only fitting that I contribute.  But I wanted to offer something I haven’t seen written yet, which is coping with the election of Trump in a … Read moreCoping with Post-Election Fears in an LGBT Context

In Defense of Hate: Understanding the Modern American Conservative

[OK, it should go without saying for those who regularly read my blog, but I’m being facetious with the below.  I’m not a Trump supporter, and I’m being “devil’s advocate” here.  Just to clarify…] Usually, I write about LGBT issues (more specifically, about gay men), but because so many are stressed out about this election, … Read moreIn Defense of Hate: Understanding the Modern American Conservative

Five Tips to Survive Election Season

Quickly try this exercise:  Think about where you were 15 years ago, in the Spring of 2001.  Where were you working?  Where did you go for lunch? Who was your favorite co-worker?  Who was your least-favorite co-worker?  Now, who was President?  (I bet that took a second, right?).  Because when we think about the course … Read moreFive Tips to Survive Election Season

Gay Men Seeing Escorts: Rewards and Risks

With the recent Department of Homeland Security raid and arrest of Rentboy.com, the issue of paid sex work, also known as escorts or “prostitution” among gay men, has been a hot topic. The United States has always had an anxious relationship to all things sexual, and this is explored well in a new book by … Read moreGay Men Seeing Escorts: Rewards and Risks

Fred Phelps is Dead. We Can All Breathe a Sigh of Relief. Or Can We? In the Age of “ChristianMingle.com”, Maybe Not

You know, it's not the Fred Phelps "God Hates Fags"/"Matthew Shepard In Hell" style of anti-gay hate you have to worry about. Phelps is dead, and his "movement" locally probably gone with him. No one ever gave Phelps any serious consideration; his and his family's peculiar and theatrical expressive style of anti-gay sentiment was widely … Read moreFred Phelps is Dead. We Can All Breathe a Sigh of Relief. Or Can We? In the Age of “ChristianMingle.com”, Maybe Not

Coming Out: Again and Again

Coming Out: Again and Again Many young gay men, in childhood and early adolescence, as they become aware that they are gay, often build an internal awareness of their gay identity long before it is known to any other human being, including those closest to them such as parents or best friends.  Eventually, this awareness … Read moreComing Out: Again and Again

Gay Men’s Mental Health in the Current Political Climate: A Lesson in Hope and Resilience

As the first activities in the 2012 election season begin with events like the recent Republican Iowa Straw Poll, I have noticed an increase in reported stress in my daily practice of therapy with gay men.  It seems that the rhetoric in the news daily is an irritant to the men I work with in … Read moreGay Men’s Mental Health in the Current Political Climate: A Lesson in Hope and Resilience

From the Los Angeles Times – Letters to the Editor:

Dear Editor:

Regarding the LA Gay & Lesbian Center’s new “HIV is a Gay Disease – Own It, End It; social marketing and advertising campaign (“HIV Ads Embrace, and Stun, Audience” (Sharon Bernstein, September 30): As a gay man living with HIV since 1990, and since that time working in HIV mental health and social services in various community agencies (including the LA Gay & Lesbian Center), and as currently a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in serving gay men, including many living with HIV, I am deeply offended by this campaign. I find this campaign heinous as much for what it isn’t as for what it is. It is a throwback to the early days of the AIDS crisis when anti-gay forces in this country used AIDS as “justification” to hate and discriminate against the entire gay community, without realizing that AIDS is a disease caused by a virus that can strike anyone –

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