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Hard Times: Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction – Cognitive Causes and Cures

Hard Times:  Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction – Causes and Cures Background:  Erectile Dysfunction in Gay Men I’ve been a therapist who specializes in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, and one of the most frequent topics discussed in my office is about sexual anxieties, in particular erectile dysfunction (ED), sometimes in the […]

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How Gay Men Improve Sexual Functioning: The Mind/Body Connection

How Gay Men Improve Sexual Functioning:  The Mind/Body Connection   Sexual Satisfaction as Personal Right As I’ve learned over 25 years providing gay-affirmative therapy and coaching for gay men and gay male couples all over the world, a robust mental health is made up of certain core components.  A part of good mental health is […]

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How Therapy Can Help You Age Gracefully: A Guide for Gay Men (Part I: Emotionally and Physically)

Part I:  Emotionally and Physically In this three-part series of blog articles, I’d like to share some of the ways that I’ve seen my gay male clients benefit from therapy in a way that most people probably don’t think about:  how therapy helps with a healthy aging.  As a specialist in LGBT affirmative therapy, and […]

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The 8 Ways Diversity is Good for Your Mental Health

The Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles (of which I was a member for a number of years in the 90’s) sings a song in its permanent repertoire called “Diversity”, singing about how the gay men in the Chorus come from many different states and many different occupations, and our “diversity makes us strong”.  I […]

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Gay Men’s Relationships: How Your Therapy Affects Your Partner

There are times in my psychotherapy practice with gay men (individuals and couples) when I’m working with an individual, and the subject of the client’s partner comes up, and how the partner feels about his partner (my client) being in therapy.  The apparent reactions (well, at least according to my client’s reports of them) are […]

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Gay Men and Sleep: Coping with Nightmares

Have you been bothered by having nightmares or bad dreams?  Today I wanted to write about gay men and sleep, and coping with nightmares.  This comes up frequently either with clients in my office, or when I do online counseling or coaching for gay men all over the country, or the world.  Yesterday in my […]

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On 25 Years of Living with HIV Today: Here’s How I Feel

I was diagnosed with HIV on Saturday, November 3, 1990. That was 25 years ago today. This was at the old site of the LA Gay & Lesbian Center, when it was on Highland Avenue. My “code name” that I gave one week before for the blood test was “KH90” (my initials and the year), […]

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The Psychosocial Aspects of PrEP: Cause for Collaboration

As a psychotherapist who has worked as a specialist in gay men’s and HIV mental health for over 23 years, I have always maintained that HIV/AIDS is more than a medical issue; it’s a psychosocial one as well.  As Chair of the LA County HIV Mental Health Task Force for 9 years, we advocated for […]

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Marijuana Over-Use: Getting Clean from Green

When it’s good, it’s very, very good. You’re relaxed. Sounds and sights are more vivid. Everything is a bit funny. Time loses its tyranny. Man, this feeling is great! Well, okay, there’s the clumsiness, hunger and thirst, and distorted senses, but at first, and maybe (for some people) for a very long time, the pluses […]

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Loving Someone with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and its less-severe related diagnosis, Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) can be the topic of jokes and even comedy movies.  But living with the actual disorder is no joke.  OCD is quite burdensome to live with, and it can make the partners of people living with OCD stressed-out, too.  People living with OCD […]

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