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“Toxic Busy”: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

Recently in my psychotherapy and coaching practice that has focused on gay men and gay male couples for over 26 years, a client started a session by talking about his previous week.  “How was this week?” I asked. “Oh, boy.  Lots going on.  Been busy.  Very busy.  Toxic busy!” That phrase struck me. “Toxic busy”.  […]

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Ten Tips to Reduce Your Election Stress This Weekend: A Guide for Gay Men

There’s a saying that says, “don’t be part of the problem, be part of the solution.” So many of my friends on Facebook, my clients, and just people I talk to, have reported that they have had such a hard week and hard time for a number of weeks now, because they are stressed about […]

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How Therapy Can Help You Age Gracefully: A Guide for Gay Men – Part III: Domestically and Financially

In this third and last of my three-part series on how therapy can help gay men age gracefully, I’d like to share how therapy can help you be at your best domestically and financially.  (In Part I, we covered emotionally and physically, and in Part II , we covered socially and culturally). As a specialist […]

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The 8 Ways Diversity is Good for Your Mental Health

The Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles (of which I was a member for a number of years in the 90’s) sings a song in its permanent repertoire called “Diversity”, singing about how the gay men in the Chorus come from many different states and many different occupations, and our “diversity makes us strong”.  I […]

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Gay Men’s Mental Health: The Gym/Fitness Connection

It’s not true that all gay men spend an inordinate amount of time in the gym, but it sure seems like it’s all of them.  For most gay men, it’s just routine.  There is something about gay male culture world-wide that seems to support the “gym lifestyle”, whether it’s for health reasons or for the […]

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Five Tips to Survive Election Season

Quickly try this exercise:  Think about where you were 15 years ago, in the Spring of 2001.  Where were you working?  Where did you go for lunch? Who was your favorite co-worker?  Who was your least-favorite co-worker?  Now, who was President?  (I bet that took a second, right?).  Because when we think about the course […]

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Gay Men and Sleep: Coping with Nightmares

Have you been bothered by having nightmares or bad dreams?  Today I wanted to write about gay men and sleep, and coping with nightmares.  This comes up frequently either with clients in my office, or when I do online counseling or coaching for gay men all over the country, or the world.  Yesterday in my […]

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Five Work Transitions for Gay Men that Could Benefit from Career Coaching

While I do mainstream psychotherapy sessions in my office for people with depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship conflicts, and many psychological disorders, I’ve also had many requests for career coaching in the past year especially.  Many guys have friends, bosses, family, and maybe even a mentor of sorts, but career coaching fulfills something none of these […]

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Gay Men’s Mental Health: 5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer

Gay Men’s Mental Health:  5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer Spring has sprung!  Spring is a nice time of year for many people, because things like the doldrums of winter can be shaken off and the spring/summer seasons can usually bring a lot of nice things like sunshine, outdoor socializing, extra daylight to work/play in, […]

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Gay Men Keeping Perspective: Quality of Life for Your Place in History

Many factors affect your quality of life, just day-to-day.  But one tip that I have used that helps me, and the clients I counsel and coach, is to keep perspective about your personal life, your work, and your social life in an historical context of the age in history in which we live.  Many people […]

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