Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression. I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read moreGay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help
Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future This is the second of a ten-part series that I call “The Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series”, based on what my clients at GayTherapyLA (my therapy and coaching practice that specializes in gay men, for the past … Read moreGay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future
How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques In Part 1 of this article, I shared some of the traits of resilient people that have been described by Susan Dunn, in her “Top 10 Attributes of Resilient People”, among others. Resilience is the ability to adapt and grow from adversity, … Read moreHow Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques
Whether it’s Trump’s election and his appointment of virulently anti-gay cabinet members (my article on that is here), or just everyday life challenges that would be there regardless, gay men need support to face stressors of various kinds. Things happen that are barriers, setbacks, and losses, and when they do, we need to mobilize both … Read moreHow Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 1: Traits
[SPOILER ALERT: SOME PLOT POINTS REVEALED] For readers who are unfamiliar with this series, “Shrink at the Movies” is a not-very-consistent string of essays (ponderings, I like to call them) from my point of view as both a licensed psychotherapist in California (Licensed Clinical Social Worker, or LCSW) and as a life-long movie fan. Being … Read moreShrink at the Movies: “Florence Foster Jenkins” (2016)
This otherwise fairly normal news week in cyberspace was punctuated with a vibrant exclamation point in the form of the viral video currently circulating the globe from a young Los Angeles gymnast, singer, dancer, model, and choreographer by the name of Carson Dean (or, as he is known most this week, “that guy doing that … Read moreHow ‘Uptown Funk’ Treadmill Dancer Carson Dean is a Hero for Our Times
One of the things that I do in my psychotherapy and coaching practice, that most other therapists don't do, is that I provide career and business coaching sesssions (in my office, over the phone, or over Skype) for guys who are self-employed, building a small business, or are looking for ways to take their business … Read moreGay Men’s Success in Building a Business or Self-Employment: If You Build It, They Will Come
When it’s good, it’s very, very good. You’re relaxed. Sounds and sights are more vivid. Everything is a bit funny. Time loses its tyranny. Man, this feeling is great! Well, okay, there’s the clumsiness, hunger and thirst, and distorted senses, but at first, and maybe (for some people) for a very long time, the pluses … Read moreMarijuana Over-Use: Getting Clean from Green
During my 22 years of clinical practice providing psychotherapy, mostly to both gay (www.GayTherapyLA.com) and straight (www.MensLifeSkillsCenter.com) men, I have helped clients with the well-known challenges that people seek therapy for: depression, anxiety, relationship concerns, career concerns, and loss. The general public knows all of these. But there are more subtle situations and reasons for … Read moreThe 8 Subtle Signs You Could Benefit from Therapy/Coaching
One of the positive stereotypes that are assigned to gay men (as welcome respite to so many negative ones) is that we have good taste. Our sense of our clothes, grooming, cars, and homes are respected to be stylish, up-to-date, and of good design and quality. But is this so for everyone? Recently I was … Read moreGay Men’s Domiciles: Is Your House a Home?